You end up real disappointed when you go through life thinking people have the same heart as you.
Are you ever just overwhelmed by the horrifying thought that maybe, nobody ACTUALLY wants you around? And it’s not that you think everyone hates you, but it’s just that you’re not special to anyone? And that its really kind of sucky that you’re about 98% sure that nobody thinks “Wow, I just really like talking to her.” and that you could probably just disappear without anyone caring that much?
Greed is a funny thing. You hear all the time that money can’t buy you happiness. But people still try. People still buy into the idea that maybe, if they can just have ENOUGH of it, it will. After all, having money, leads to the ability to go shopping, which is also known, sometimes, by another name, “retail THERAPY.” And if it’s so therapeutic, why shouldn’t it make us happy? The thing is, it does. We are happy while we’re shopping and acquiring new things, things we may have coveted for some time now. And you know what? I think that statement, that money doesn’t make you happy, is kind of bullshit.
I think it does make you happy in the moment when you’re finally purchasing that thing or things that you’ve been wanting. The opportunity to acquire something new. New things are exciting, and having that kind of excitement, being able to treat yourself to things which, without money, you couldn’t possibly treat yourself to, you couldn’t have those temporary slivers of happiness.
And beyond that, happiness buys the ability to do things that we otherwise would not be able to do. With money, people have more options, in general. Choosing a school from private lower school, middle school, upper school, and then all the way up to college and not having to worry about student loans. That takes a lot of stress off, and can give people a better education than they might have otherwise gotten. And that education gives us more career options than we would have had without it. When we are able to work in a career field that we actually like, rather than just one that will get us by monetarily, I think we are inheritently happier than those working just whatever job they can get, even if ti’s not the job they wanted because they were unable to train for that one because the schooling for it was just too much money. Plus, stress makes it almost impossible for people to be truly happy, or meet their full happyiness potential, and for most young people, and even many who are not as young, student loans hang over their heads as a HUGE stressor and put quite a damper on the happiness that could have been, if they had money.
Safety is another thing entirely. Money works both ways in that. While the richer you are, the larger a target you are as a target for theft, robbery, and extortion, and other crimes, violent or not, you also have the means to keep yourself safer than those who must live without. Health insurance is a joke, if we’re honest. Those without money had just better hope that they don’t get sick. Medications alone, even when covered by the insurance companies, often have large co-pays. When they’re not covered, they’re ourtrageous. Doctors visits, procedures, things like that? without money, it would be impossible to afford that. There is a certain sense of safety, which brings a certain sense of calm and comfort, in having money.
There’s having so many more options. Where to live, when to retire, how to run your family (stay at home parent? Nanny?) Whether or not to have children, and if so, how many. If there’s trouble conceiving it’s not a big deal, financally, to try other options like in-vitro, or adoption, both of which can be extremely expensive but if having a child is a person’s dream, that cann bring great joy. Great joy, that the money provided for.
So it’s for me to find a problem with people who really want more money. It’s hard for me to disagree with money being able to make people happy. I know money has not made me a happy person. But, it has brought me temporary happinesss. When I am shopping on the internet, then waiting for whatever I ordered to arrive at my door, then openning up whatever I bought and getting to use it for the first…faiirly long time, it does lift my mood. Not permanently, and it doesn’t negate the serious oother problems in my life, but it is something that brings me comfort and pleasure. I don’t see the problem with people wanting more money; greed as it is commonly referred to in a negative tone.
So, even if someone assured me that having more money would not make me happy, I believe my response to them would be something along the lines of, “you may be right, but I don’t care. I will never stop wanting more.”